April 27, 2013
What George Jones taught me about Faith and Humanity

George Jones’ passing Friday following an extended illness is a little personal.

I never met Mr. Jones, and while I listened to his music for most of my life, fondness for his recordings is not the reason for my heartache.

Mr. Jones’ death takes me back to my grandfather, who was laid to rest a little more than a year ago and introduced me to the music of George, Conway Twitty, Ray Price and countless other country legends.

In so many ways, my grandfather and George Jones were polar opposites. My grandfather was a kind, hard-working, God-fearing individual who enjoyed a good time without vice and was always there for his friends, family and neighbors in need.

Most of George Jones’ life featured few of these qualities. He was an alcoholic and drug abuser, a man so absorbed in his addictions and self-destruction his trademark was missing concerts, not performing them.

They lived completely different lives. Yet, there were few true fans of George Jones’ music bigger than my grandfather.

Granddad was not the only one. Growing up in Middle Tennessee, country music’s bread basket, I rarely met anyone, saint or sinner, church deacon or barstool resident, who did not find a special place in their heart for the heartbreaking ballads and unique vocal volatility of the ‘ol Possum.

Much of their admiration focused on his voice. Never too polished, never flat and never absent emotion, George Jones’ sound serves as the measuring stick for measuring anything others want to consider “country.”

Unlike other vocalists, one cannot imagine hearing another sing like Jones, not that it is even possible.

Jones’ selection of songs offers another reason. Their lyrics, crafted by a plethora of songwriters and fellow artists, serve as standards in their own right. Yet, they only “sound right” when George sang them.

These songs, their lyrics and Jones’ delivery strike undeniable chords with his audience. Nobody I know dislikes “The Grand Tour” or “She Thinks I Still Care” or “Walk Through This World With Me.”  I am careful not to ignore “He Stopped Loving Her Today,” his biggest hit and perhaps the greatest country song ever recorded.

For some reason, the music of George Jones captured the soul and heart of millions of d, Americans. His sound encouraged them to look beyond the shell of a man wrought with sin and imperfections.

I never got the feeling his fans were blind or attempting to avoid his mistakes and failures. Instead, they loved and forgave him.

They shared Faith in God. Like so many Jones’ fan loved and cared for, family and friends, they saw him as a talented “work in progress.” Eventually, they believed, he will see the path.

When I was a teenager, he made an appearance at our Walmart in Cookeville to promote his “George Jones Dog Food” (he also sold sausage at one point). Thousands of fans showed up to buy a bag, and I doubt all of them owned dogs.

I never heard my grandfather say a bad word about Jones. In his own way, he saw George as much “human” as he was.

This is hard to understand when one is younger, and when the actions of two separate lives are so easy to compare and contrast on the surface.

Eventually, George Jones sobered up. He rarely turned away from the truth, especially in his later years. The faith so many fans held for him provided the encourage necessary for Jones to confront his demons and build stronger relationships.

In the past 24 hours since his passing, the outpouring of testimonial and remembrance across the spectrums of American music and culture serve as an appropriate epilogue to Jones’ legacy.

The sadness is overwhelming. Despite a catalog of work of more than 150 albums and thousands of performances spanning all or part of 8 decades, many of us cannot imagine a life without George Jones and his music.

I doubt anybody was hanging out last night, dancing in the streets like some did after Michael Jackson’s unfortunate death a few years ago. These feelings are completely different.

Jackson also appeared to be “beyond” or “above” us, an idol fans fainted and collapsed in front of and adored in often unhealthy fashion. A talented artist so many chose to look at only skin deep, ignoring his transgressions and disturbing personal behavior.

George Jones was none of these. Despite the adulation and honors, record sales and sold out concerts, he was still seen as human, failings and all.

Now, we know he awaits the rest of us in heaven. I imagine my grandfather is among the first to welcome him.

February 4, 2013
BSA faces a “no win” Decision

To preface, I am an Eagle Scout, have more than 20 years active Scouting experience (youth and adult) and believe sincerely in what the Scouting movement stands for.

This week, the leaders of the Boy Scouts of America are faced with choosing the lesser of two evils.

On one hand, they could possibly put an end to decades of ever-growing assault by gay rights activists, who waged multi-faceted social warfare to demonize and condemn Scouting’s membership prohibitions against homosexuals.

On the other, they will alienate a significant share of their fiercest and strongest supporters: Conservative Christians who participate in the programs and provide a significant level of membership, leadership and local financial support.

The decision pits the interests of BSA’s National Organization with that of its regional Council and local Packs and Troops. BSA National, hammered by the continued loss of corporate donors due to the outside pressures of gay activists, is also besieged by an embarrassing revisit of sexual abuse cases filed away in their archives, brought back to life and scrutiny during a related trial in Oregon last year

At the Council and local level, most of those actually involved in working with the Scouts, their leaders, committee members, and Council Boards of Directors, along with most of the churches sponsoring the Troops and Packs, have expressed opposition to policy changes. Judging by what I’ve seen in social media, many active leaders believe changing the policy to allow units to decide whether or not to allow for homosexual leaders and members is an abdication of the BSA’s commitment to upholding morality and virtue. Some even go so far as to plan to remove their children and direct involvement if such a plan is adopted.

Then there is President Obama. While the Presidency also carries with it the honorary head of the BSA, he hasn’t seen a need, until now, to really address the organization.

However, during a pre-Super Bowl interview with CBS, Obama clearly expressed his support for changing Scouting’s membership policy to allow for homosexuals.

As a result, if the BSA were to choose to keep the policy as it is now, expect the gay rights movement to direct their attention to Washington to open up another front against the national organization, and even the regional councils and local units.

Time is on the side of these aggressors. Four years is a little less than the average amount of time it takes for a Scout to go from joining a Troop to earning Eagle. Given how the President’s repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” seemed to change the conventional perceptions of homosexuality within a short time period, and how it will be virtually impossible to rescind it, Scouting is facing a war of attrition, and they are on the wrong end of the supply line.

If Scouting upholds its current policies, the impact to the movement will be noticeable. For the sake of example, here are a couple of things to consider:

  • Many Scout Camps, including the one I attended as a youth in Middle Tennessee, are located on bodies of water (natural and man made) controlled by the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers. What is the President used an Executive Order to terminate, or at the least prohibit renewal of leases for property or water rights to organizations that discriminate against homosexuals? (Of course, our President doesn’t know anything about Executive Orders)
  • The loss of corporate support at the national level will trickle down to the Councils.
  • Gay advocacy groups within some Churches might ask their Conferences to start upholding what their published movement stands against discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation state. In case you’re wondering, the United Methodist Church, whose congregations sponsor a significant percentage of Packs and Troops (including the one I was a member of), may have an issue in the future, given their own Conference.

These tactics, and more, will be applied more aggressively. Scouting will survive, but compared to its current status as a leader in developing boys into effective, skillful individuals of character, I am afraid the movement will find itself going underground, subject to constant public ridicule by an ever growing chorus who either believe they are wrong, or too afraid to say otherwise.

There is also another side to this worth mentioning. Personally, I do not like how Scouting’s hand is being forced by powers outside the movement. It is simply wrong.

On the inside, there is a need that should be at least discussed, since it deals specifically with the purpose of the movement.

What about the boys?

In this case, I am not talking about the potential for boys to face greater risks of molestation and abuse. The jury is split on that one.

Specifically, we know that same-sex families, while a minority, are growing. So far as I know, there isn’t any evidence that supports the idea children from these households are more likely to become homosexual themselves (they weren’t born that way, either).

If policies remain the same, their parents will not be able to participate in their sons’ activities with Scouting. More than likely, this will keep these boys out of the program.

Perhaps that is how it will have to be. Regardless, it deserves honest attention and courteous handling once long-term decisions on membership policy are made, one way or another.

This is only one example of how the boys will be hurt, and have been hurt, as a result of this ongoing, disgusting policy debate.

I do not know which is the right decision. I do know that neither one is a reflection of protecting self interest or reinforcing hateful ideology.

As a private organization, the BSA should be able to uphold its policies without the demagoguery of social rights advocates who would have better used the time helping youth in need by partnering with those interested in their world view.

This week, they may get their way with respect to policy. In all honesty, they really only get their way if their goal was to seriously damage Scouting, and then you have to wonder what their real motivations were.

I will remain an advocate and supporter of the BSA’s mission and its units regardless of the decision. I can understand giving units the right, if they believe it is right, to open opportunities for youth raised in same-sex households, similar to the challenge we overcame during my youth when opportunities for leadership were expanded to women.

I also believe no unit should be forced into changing the policy if it does not agree with the beliefs and teachings of their sponsor, or the membership.

This coming weekend will mark the BSA’s 102nd Anniversary. Churches with units will recognize their members during “Scout Sunday” services and events.

More than likely, they will pray for the strength and character of these boys, so they may grow into the individual doer’s and leaders our nation, states and localities desperately need.

May they also pray for the salvation of Scouting. If people see a potential change in policy as a sin, may His Will show how we cannot allow our abhorrence of evil cloud our efforts to prepare the next generation.

If the BSA holds firm, then may we pray for Scouting to retain the strength and courage to continue on, despite the likelihood for persistent defeats on many fronts.

Regardless the decision this week, the path thereafter will be the real test of Scouting’s Character, and that of its members.

December 16, 2012
Diminished Return: If you're going cave, offer something creative

diminishedreturn:

Speaker Boehner’s cave on tax hikes for millionaires signals that the debate is now about tax policy. Spending policy is off the table, an unfortunate result that proves the Speaker’s incompetence.

If Republicans want to avoid outright conservative rebellion, they at least ought to be bold and…

November 14, 2012
What you WILL get for Christmas (or, suck it up and be grateful)

Do you really deserve what you get for Christmas each year? Maybe

I have no idea whether you’ve been good or bad. I also have no idea of the gifts you receive correspond to your behavior, or reflect the giver’s assessment of your annual performance as a friend, son, brother, husband, etc.

Regardless, we all know that some presents, regardless of who gives them or how we behave, aren’t anything we planned for.

It doesn’t matter, we will still get them.

Why? I think part of it has to do with how people shop. More than likely, if people who give you gifts fit convention shopping profiles, they likely spend their holidays prowling big department stores, usually in malls or big box meccas.

Depending on their relationship to you, they usually don’t think of what to give you until the end of their rounds. Whether they do everything on Black Friday or not, they are usually “tired” and “stressed” and don’t necessarily want to go to some specific store or department to find that specific item you detailed out in your pretentious email gift list (I doubt this is true for most of you, but we all know someone like this, even if they are a really nice person and are simply unaware of their spoiled existence).

In fact, most of us really don’t have a guest list. We keep it simple: staple dress clothes, socks, undergarments (admit it, guys don’t buy these themselves), books. Oh yeah, and gift certificates!

Unfortunately, our lack of attention to detail (perhaps because we realize we are not children anymore and Santa is more or less a…) leaves our well wishers in an even bigger conundrum. For some reason, despite the fact that retailers do their best to make gift cards readily available, lots of people who will actually give us something can’t stomach the thought of simply giving us a small envelope.

Therefore, they find themselves out of energy, in need of a gift, feet planted in an albatross, likely one of the following:

  1. Department Store Homegoods Area
  2. Department Store Men’s Department
  3. Homegoods Big Box (i.e., Bed, Bath and Beyond)
  4. Mega Bookstore
  5. Chain Drug Store
  6. Convenience Store

So, while I’m out and about for the holidays, why not take some pics of those items you might see for a second as you race through a Macy’s or Belk on your way to Best Buy to test out a tablet before deciding which one to buy at Amazon (or whatever upwardly mobile peeps do in a mall; I don’t see them in the anchors much). You might have thought, “I’ll feel sorry for the poor chap whose boss gives him that instead of a bottle of scotch.”

Then, a few days before Christmas, as he or she hands you the exact same small, rectangular packaging everyone else on your team received, that obnoxious tabletop decorative you made fun of on your way home after a Saturday at the mall comes back to haunt you.

Strap in, kids. Here’s the first sample…

When you feel like washing your Corolla, Sonata or whatever the Kia equivalent is called while wearing your tie and dress shoes (and playing Sheryl Crow, of course).

OMG! OMG! OMG! How did you manage to take calls from your mobile at work without looking like a professional!

“Those tissues are so wasteful,” your Aunt will say. “And, think of all the money you’ll save.”

“You don’t say, Mom. They said something on ‘Today’ about the importance of having your hands free while driving.”

“Of course we have a sense of humor at work, Uncle Joe. My boss… oh, she’ll really get a kick out of these. That’s right, unk. My boss is a ‘chick.’”

More to come. Of course you can submit your own (just keep them clean).

November 11, 2012

November 11, 2012
For Veteran’s Day

Because of You, Unknown Soldier
By Courtney Tanabe

Because of you, I am here Because of you, I am able to live freely

Yet I do not know you And I have not done anything for you

But there you stand, ready to fight And there you are prepared to die For me

You’ve fought before And you’ll fight again For someone you don’t know

So thank you Unknown Soldier Fighting for me

I’m here because of you And I owe my future to you

——
Found at http://www.fifeschools.com/cjh/news/newsitems/veteransdaypoems.htm

November 10, 2012
Ken’s CFB Picks - Week 11

Another off week last week, following a 3-3 performance the week before.

This week…

Texas A&M at Alabama (+14)
Johnny Football isn’t going to have a good day.
Bama 42, Aggies 10

Georgia (+15) at Auburn
Trap game! The Dawgs will win, but only after they stab the Tigers’ hearts late.
UGA 28, Auburn 21

Notre Dame (+20) at Boston College
After last week, expect the Irish to show up sober.
ND 42, BC 14

Louisville (+2) at Syracuse
Gimmeee!
Louisville 24, Syracuse 14

Missouri at Tennessee (+3.5)
I think the Vols can make this happen.
UT 28, Mizzou 10

Kansas State (+6.5) at TCU
A tale of 2 halves… K-State will put the Frogs away.
K-State 38, TCU 17

Extra! Extra!
Tulane at Memphis (PK)
2-7 visiting 1-8. Their records will be identical tomorrow.
Memphis 35, Tulane 31

October 27, 2012
Ken’s CFB Picks - Week 9

4-2 last week

This week:

Kentucky at Missouri (+14)
Wildcats need to play up on the road. They don’t necessarily have to win.
Missouri 24, Kentucky 17

Colorado at Oregon (+47)
Maybe this is the week Oregon tries out its “cloaking” uniform option?
Oregon 56, Colorado 7

Texas A&M (+15) at Auburn
Just because they lost to Vandy doesn’t mean Auburn is totally lost.
Auburn 24, Texas A&M 23

NC State at North Carolina (-7)
After loosing to Duke last week, they’re giving the Heels a lot of faith. Hmmm…they can score.
UNC 31, NC State 21

Notre Dame at Oklahoma (+13)
I don’t know if the Irish are overrated, but Norman certainly is.
OU 28, Notre Dame 27

Georgia v. Florida (+6.5)
Momentum favors the Gators, as does the weather. I’m letting pride mess with me.
Georgia 24, Florida 23

October 20, 2012
Ken’s CFB Picks - Week 8

No picks last week (bye). Let’s see what trouble we can get into.

Alabama @ Tennessee (-20)
This is the season for the Vols. Showing up is key, as is finishing. Saban could sit his assault for the 1st half given UTs propensity for 2nd half disasters. If this rivalry means anything, the Vols at the very lease keep it respectful, though an upset guarantees more (deserved) time for Coach Dooley.
Bama 35, Vols 31

UNLV @ Boise State (+27.5)
Sheridan must be expecting an offensive assault from the Broncos. He’s right, but I don’t think the Rebels are this inept.
Boise State 49, UNLV 31

North Carolina @ Duke (-10.5)
Why do I get the feeling the Tar Heels are overrated? Same time, Cutliffe’s Blue Devil squad is playing with more heart, and they can score.
Duke 45, UNC 38

Georgia @ Kentucky (-25.5)
At this point, all you van have is pitty for the Wildcats. The good news is that I’ve never seen Richt’s Dawgs play well angry. They are also coming off a bye after an embarrassing road loss to South Carolina. The best thing for Georgia would be a hard-fought road win.
UGA 31, UK 24

Kansas State @ West Virginia (-2.5)
Disrespect the Cats of Manhattan at your own risk! Enjoy the air show!
K-State 52, WVU 49

South Carolina @ Florida (-2.5)
The SEC East suicide pool continues. After the Gamecocks loss last week at LSU, we’re ready for a definitive decision after next week’s Georgia/Florida battle. With Lattimore hurt, I’m not convinced USC can score enough. The good news is that their Defense is far superior to anything the Gators have seen this year. So, why the heck not, visor head!
South Carolina 24, Florida 21

October 6, 2012
Ken’s CFB Picks - Week 6

Last week: 2-4

Today’s spreads look like a feeding frenzy to some. I’ll stick with just 6.

Virginia Tech @ North Carolina (+5.5)
This is what the ACC has reduced itself to. Time for order to be restored.
VT 28, UNC 10

Virginia @ Duke (+1)
Didn’t UVA loose to La-Tech?
Duke 21, Virginia 10

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